Thursday, February 25, 2010

THRICE BITTEN NOW A VICTIM

To blog or not to blog....well thats the question today. I have been riding on an emotional train to my inner victim this week wondering how to protect my baby and how to push through a tough time.
It is all about lessons I guess.
Today's lesson is that I cant save or protect anyone but myself. But boy is it a hard one.
Here is why....My baby Zia has been bitten for a third time on her face by another child younger than her. So not only does she have a scar but she looks like she has been mauled by a cat too.
So to protect her I decided to keep her out of school for a few days until the teachers can come up with a full proof plan to keep her safe.
However what gauls me has been a pattern that I have noticed throughout my life.
THAT BAD BEHAVIOUR GETS REWARDED IN THIS WORLD.
We humans have the ability to explain all negative behaviour away because dealing with the actual issue is far harder. In this instance ...Instead of the little girl who bit my daughter being suspended or kept at home because she is feeling neglected - it is my daughter that has to stay at home for her safety.
And time and time again I have seen this. In my life, drug addicts, emotionally unavailable men, cheating husbands and lazy fathers have been "let off the proverbial" hook because they do not take responsibility for their actions.
So the people who are working hard and doing their best get taken for a ride. Now you may say the reason for this behaviour is because good people are co-dependant. So that means people are either addicts or co-dependants. Or enablers and dependants. It is bizaar the way society rewards or makes excuses for people who do not pull their own weight. I may be ranting now but its my child's face and all I hear is how the other child is being neglected.
So here is to the chomp chomp lesson of the day.....stay away from biters cos they going to take a nibble out of you and get away with it.

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Lighten up!!!!


Jeepers!! (a new word i learnt from a guru young hip psychic) but lovely to say..
why so glum. Life is too short but most often its so hard to laugh at..really if I just lightened up. Laugh out load. Go nuts - find the inner child and go frolick on the grass.
Damn people!!! nothing is so heavy that it needs to take over your whole being. We have a choice - this I learnt throughout my life. I can choose to have a jol, i can choose to laugh and I can choose to be miserable. Sometimes and you get bogged down in surviving rather than living. Eating an ice-cream when its melting all over your hands. Or taking a walk on the beach and instead of keeping clean you run in the surf get wet and messy.
You got to look at life like a cupcake. Just dive into it. See the sweetness, the beauty, and dodging the addiction of it...to just eat it up and in the end you have a messy face and sticy fingers to show for it.
Get into life - get dirty and be free....
http://messymonkeyartscre8.shutterfly.com/
Like this inspiring creators of messy monkey - who now makes a living and has an international company that thrives on play. Making money and freeing up participants to the fabuliciousness of their inner child.
My all time favourite - eat a mango naked !! wow what an experience.
LIFE PEOPLE...ITS FUN...ITS HERE!! ITS NOW
play jump eat project has inspired me to go play jump and eat.
check it out:http://messymonkeyartscre8.shutterfly.com/
TO LAUGHTER!!!!

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

SOULMATES


Soulmates shmoalmates....I do believe in soulmates -I have experienced the connection when you see someone and you know them from another time. A time when time did not exist. The world around you slips into a white noise in the background and all you know is that the soul that stands infront of you - is you. Has parts of you that you were searching for without knowing those parts were missing.
Its like finding a womb where belonging is being and moving away is like having your heart ripped open. Once seen, smelt, tasted and connected - this life is no longer as it was just a few seconds ago.
Yes I have felt this - walked it and lived through it.
But I can also say unequivically that there is not only ONE soulmate per lifetime...but rather a number of them. As each one passes through this life - they bring with the lessons needed to evolve. Once the lesson is done - the time comes to move and sometimes the soulmate you were with needs to move on to.
For some they are fortunate or maybe just too darn stubborn to let go of that one soulmate so they stay together and learn the same lesson over and over.
And for a select few the trauma of meeting another soulmate occurs whilst they are still with the first one....this is the story of pain, tragedy and rejection.
This is the hardest time for those wanting to give love as love is not allowed to be shared in this world we know. It is the love of jealously,envy and possessiveness. Not a love of unity, sisterhood and eternity. It is made to be exclusive and causes pain and abandonment to all in the triangle. But why would a person be faced with this choice. Is it not unfair of the universe to provide you with two or three soulmates at the same time - whilst others cannot even find one.
In my humble opinion it is as it should be - because the idea that you should and can only love one person is ludicrous. As humans we are built with a heart that can love our mother, our father, our sisters and cousins...so why then can we not love more than one wife or one partner. Why is love limited by society that dictates we should not explore communal love. Is that a dirty word - or rather be interpreted by the religious as an orgy? If we lived in a world where we had self love and we valued our community and we were not dominated by the ego's need for validation - we would learn the greatest lesson in this life....that love is free....that love can be given and received to all and that love is eternal...or we can wallow in high rates of divorce, affairs, sexual deviant acts of sodomy to pretend we are inclined to be monogomous and can mate with one person for the rest of our life.....
Huh I reel back from what I have written knowing that in reality I am married and how would I feel if I was the one facing the possibility of sharing a lover!!
Not so sure of myself now am I???